Family dysfunction

I always describe my family as normal, meaning they are just as dysfunctional as everyone else's family. My son recently asked me how I would rate my family, including me and my husband on a scale of 1-10 (10 is the worst) for dysfunction, and I felt a 5 since we are pretty nuts, but I've seen worse. This week was not a good week for my family, they moved up the scale to about an 8. After receiving a call from my former husband informing me he wants to attend our son's graduation with his mother, even though he is barred by court order, and that he knew I was sick. I was furious as it was clear he was getting information from my family who I don't talk to, in part, because they talk to this idiot. My cousin who had inadvertently shared information with my mother, believing it would be confidential was furious with my mother. My mother naturally just blames everyone else i.e. my three sisters, for talking to my ex, saying she doesn't want to talk to him but he calls all the time. Yes, because he doesn't work and has nothing better to do with his life!! Who cares that we are divorced since 1998. Who cares that the court has barred him from contacting this kid since 2003. Who cares what the kid wants - no contact with his father. My mother and my family always think they know better, and never ask what someone wants or respects it, another reason to keep them far away from me. Oh and by the way, my mother has doctors, better doctors who are going to fix me. yeah right. Like that one's possible. Is it doctor who has the super secret formula to fix ovarian cancer? Think he or she would be making a mint on that one. It's absurd. The whole group of them are absurd and pathetic and deserve each other. My son, husband and I are so much better off without all of them. Much more peace and serenity. No drama!